Raising a Child…. financially

What would you do to support your child?   
What would you do to avoid supporting your child?  
Let me tell you a little “story”.  
The x, I believe chooses not to work. It appears to be to much effort for him to work. We’ve been divorced for almost 14 years. In that time he has [...]

Responsibilities to the “New Woman”

Those red flags fly more easy for some than for others. As I get more wisdom, and have learned to trust my own intuition…. that little voice doesn’t have to scream like it did when I was in my teens or newly divorced and starting to date again. 
 The last date I had…. in the last [...]

More Thoughts on Full Disclosure

How do you start off a relationship? I’m thinking of the x’s, not mine… and I know that his relationships are not my business, with the exception of how the other person interacts with my child…. you better believe Mama Bear will show up if that person is not good to her. She is old [...]

Full Disclosure when Dating?

Sorry for disappearing…. I think I’m back… I hope I’m back. Life got in the way, it was overwhelming for a while. With the exception of being sick and a bit of travel all the overwhemness is still there, I’m just learning to deal with it, better…. one eruption at a time.  
On to my question [...]

Musical Inspiration – Taking off this Pain

The first time I heard this song, I completely ”got it”. When I was trying to decide if I was going to stay married…. or take back control of my life… I used to play games with my ring. I’d turn it around so that the wedding ring was on the outside when [...]

101 Things Update

As the New Year approaches, and the month ends, I’m reviewing my 101 Things To Do list. Similar to the “Being Brave” project doing this has allowed me have a more focused, positive approach to the way I go about doing things. 
 
During January I am going to be tracking what I am grateful for and [...]

Sunday Scribbling – Now & Then

or Then & Now.. on Love.
Back then I thought love was about someone caring about me, wanting to spend time with me, take care of me.
Little did I know that the the attentiveness was actually close to stalking! Phone calls at all hours of the day and night wanting to know where I was, who [...]

It’s Christmas…. and my spirit just walked out the door

along with my baby girl.
Visitation sucks. If the x can’t be a responsible person, a positive influence in her life, why does he get to have her at all? I know the answers, but that does not mean I have to like them, or even agree with them. My baby (I know she’s not a [...]

My Life is Changing!!

At least my horoscope says so…..
December 17, 2007

Sagittarius (11/22-12/21)
You may not realize it, but you have just about reached the end of a journey. So stop your engines, step outside of your vehicle and take a look at where you are right now — this is it. If it doesn’t quite look the way you expected [...]

Sunday Scribblings – Dance

Sunday Scribblings has become so much fun, I’m really looking forward to it each week. This weeks theme is dance…. 
For so long we’d tried to work things out. I’d suggest counseling, him getting a job, his quitting drugs, things I thought would help our family stay together. As I danced left, he danced right, his counter [...]