Raising a Child…. financially

What would you do to support your child?   
What would you do to avoid supporting your child?  
Let me tell you a little “story”.  
The x, I believe chooses not to work. It appears to be to much effort for him to work. We’ve been divorced for almost 14 years. In that time he has [...]

Responsibilities to the “New Woman”

Those red flags fly more easy for some than for others. As I get more wisdom, and have learned to trust my own intuition…. that little voice doesn’t have to scream like it did when I was in my teens or newly divorced and starting to date again. 
 The last date I had…. in the last [...]

More Thoughts on Full Disclosure

How do you start off a relationship? I’m thinking of the x’s, not mine… and I know that his relationships are not my business, with the exception of how the other person interacts with my child…. you better believe Mama Bear will show up if that person is not good to her. She is old [...]

The Last Married Easter

I don’t remember why, but the x decided he was not going to spend Easter with the family. We had plans for the 3 (me, him, my daughter) to go to his parents for Easter, where all of his siblings would be with their families.
 My guess would be that he did not feel like he [...]

Full Disclosure when Dating?

Sorry for disappearing…. I think I’m back… I hope I’m back. Life got in the way, it was overwhelming for a while. With the exception of being sick and a bit of travel all the overwhemness is still there, I’m just learning to deal with it, better…. one eruption at a time.  
On to my question [...]

Musical Inspiration – Taking off this Pain

The first time I heard this song, I completely ”got it”. When I was trying to decide if I was going to stay married…. or take back control of my life… I used to play games with my ring. I’d turn it around so that the wedding ring was on the outside when [...]

Thursday Thirteen – Positive People in My Life

Thursday Thirteen ……. People who have had a positive impact in my life. 
For each of them, I am very thankful!! 

My daughter
My Mom and Dad
My Grandparents
My only Aunt
My little brother
My first, second boyfriend and last boyfriends.. the others were more like “what was I doing?”
My junior high cooking teacher
My high school baseball coach… I was the stats [...]

Pretty Pictures

Have you ever met someone who had the perfect house, the perfect car, dressed nice, not to the 9s, but nice, every day? Things appeared just right!
I’ve known many people like this. I’ve even lived with people like this. I was becoming one of them. It’s scary to think that. Luckily I can say with [...]

Sunday Scribbling – The Date

Sometimes you just have to do things you really want to do, alone. Your friends aren’t available, or don’t have the same interest as you do, so rather than stay home, for another night, you venture out, to a new place, an unknown place, all by yourself. To see, to hear, to be among the [...]

Remembering N

N and I met about 10 years ago. We met at work, he came in as a contractor on one of the projects I was on. We became instant friends. We’d sit and talk for hours. Because he started early in the day, we’d often have breakfast and lunch together and since he got off [...]