According to CMT.com  ”Tim McGraw helped members of his stage crew eject a fan from his Tuesday night (June 24) concert in Auburn, Wash., after seeing the man assault a woman who was in one of the front rows.”

Tim’s always been one of my favorite performers, and he’s not bad to look at himself…. but to take care of things like he did, in front of everyone, if I had a cowboy hat, mine would be off to him.

Be sure to catch the first line of the song he sings when he gets back to the song…. “I ain’t looking for trouble”.

It’s spring.. yeah!!! the sun is trying to shine….. thank you Natasha Bedingfield

Makes me tear up…. 

by Emily West

I had no idea that walking with rocks in my shoes was an art form. I’ve been doing it for years!

For some reason this song was stuck in my head yesterday….. ~Jim Croce 

Those red flags fly more easy for some than for others. As I get more wisdom, and have learned to trust my own intuition…. that little voice doesn’t have to scream like it did when I was in my teens or newly divorced and starting to date again. 

 The last date I had…. in the last month. The guy seemed really nice, fun, attentive, and then I started noticing little things that made me wonder if he was married. He had said he wasn’t so I just sort of started asking questions and calling at odd times….. to which I received the silent treatment. I’m not saying he was married, I’m just saying he acted odd, and I decided I didn’t need to put myself in any weird situations…… Did I take a chance on missing out on something good? I don’t think so, only something odd, because I trusted my gut! 

If someone else… the x’s “new woman” doesn’t listen to her gut, either because she isn’t listening to it, it isn’t talking, it’s only whispering, he’s so charming… love is wonderful…. whatever the case may be, do I have any responsibility to her, or to her small child(ren)? My heart hurts for them.  

If I do have a responsibility to her, how would I approach her? Excuse me, I’d like to save you from a life of torment, similar to what I’ve been through….  

It also makes me wonder what I should be learning from it all? I’d guess taking things slow, when I meet someone I’d like to pursue a relationship with, be honest…. with both them and me, and listen to the voices, the little ones and the ones of my friends when I’m ready for them to meet him.  

Life is a wonderful thing…. !!! 

Beautiful weather calls for something upbeat, and thinking about how I want to be loved… just as I am. Hope you enjoy… by Ingrid Michaelson!! 

I don’t remember why, but the x decided he was not going to spend Easter with the family. We had plans for the 3 (me, him, my daughter) to go to his parents for Easter, where all of his siblings would be with their families.

 My guess would be that he did not feel like he could be away from the drugs for that long. Locked in a car driving to and from, with a child, no way could he stop along the way as he had done when it was just the two of us. And what about the time spent at his parents house? How was he going to explain that he needed to go for a walk or a drive, but no one could go with him? Another factor could have been that he and I had a fight (big surprise here, huh!!) and in his typical fashion he said if you don’t do what I want you to do for me, then I’m not going to Easter, probably thinking I was going to cave and give in. 

Little did he know that I was working  on myself, and becoming more of the person I knew I needed to be, in order to survive, whether we stayed married or got divorced. I knew I could not be the insecure, meek, doormat that I’d been. Something about becoming a mom helped that to kick in!!

So my daughter and I headed out for Easter, just the two of us, towards his parents house. All the cousins were within a few years of each other, so I brought lots of Easter activities for  them do over the weekend. With the exception of the questions of where was he… but they’d known him much longer than me, so they should have been able to figure that out, the weekend was great!

I could not begin to tell you what the last Easter with him was like. Oh wait, yes I can, at another time. If I forget, remind of Pinocchio.

I wish you all a wonderful Easter, if you celebrate it. 

Sorry for disappearing…. I think I’m back… I hope I’m back. Life got in the way, it was overwhelming for a while. With the exception of being sick and a bit of travel all the overwhemness is still there, I’m just learning to deal with it, better…. one eruption at a time.  

On to my question -  When you start dating someone new are you a believer in full disclosure? Do you tell little bits about yourself as you get to know the person better, or do you keep your past all to yourself?    

 The reason I ask this is, I met someone who dated the x a few years ago. In talking with her I learned that the x told her he didn’t know why I left, I had never told him! Those drugs he did really must have done a number on his brain, his memory is shot. He does not remember the drugs (must have been an amazing rehab he went through), or the fact that he thought punching and kicking me was a sport, that I had a problem with his not working (not much has changed, has it?), or that he refused to go to counseling to work on our problems.  

Garth Brooks is right about “Unanswered Prayers”. I used to pray that he (the x, not Garth….. hhmmm… ) could work things out for our marriage. If I meet someone now, I pray that if the relationship works out in whatever way it is supposed to. I no longer stress when the phone does not ring.  

The lady who dated the x for a while, said things just didn’t work out between them. I wasn’t going to ask specifics, either. For her sake, I’m very happy she moved on.

To answer my own question, I let things about my past come out as we get to know each other. Telling to much at one time, would send any man running, and not telling anything, would be a lie. I would be upset, and see it as a huge red flag if someone didn’t tell anything of their past, that was similar to what I’ve been through, especially if we were getting serious. 

I guess it’s about balance, just like the rest of life.