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Raising a Child…. financially

  • What would you do to support your child?   
  • What would you do to avoid supporting your child?  
  • Let me tell you a little “story”.  
  • The x, I believe chooses not to work. It appears to be to much effort for him to work. We’ve been divorced for almost 14 years. In that time he has worked for a total of 3 years. I have worked all but 3 months…. during the bust. I have paid spousal support, child support, and attorney fees. In the times when he was working he did pay child support… of about $112 per month. He has paid $146 in medical expenses… not one cent in daycare expenses and not one cent towards extracurricular activities even though there were orders for him to do so. I currently am paying child support to him, we are supposed to split medical expenses 50/50…. and I suck up extracurricular. I am looking at a bill for one of my daughters activities due in January for about $1,000.00. You bet she’s worth it…. where it’s going to come from, I’m still trying to figure out. Maybe Santa will help me. 
  • Today was our court date to review why the x is still not working. It may have something to do with him applying for jobs he is not qualified for…. or it could be that when he goes into an interview (which I’m not even sure he has had any) he dresses like a slob… picks his nose.. and his seat….. talks about all the time off he needs…. is negative…. (his normal self)… in general. If he has been living on nothing for 10 of 13 years then the child support I’m paying him must feel like lottery winnings. I’m not sure why it’s called child support when in reality it’s supporting him and not any child. 
  • I don’t believe her best interest is being considered. If it were he’d have a job! As one judge told him about 6 years ago, if it were his kid, he’d clean toilets. Dude.. take a hint…. clean yourself up… get dressed, quit acting like the victim….. (remember I left you because of abuse…. ) and take responsibility for your actions….. You’ve fought for custody, you have visitation rights…. if you want to be a parent, then act like one and be financially responsible. It’s a start… I’m not saying you have to do the other things too. Staring now is a bit late….. she’s 17… maybe by the time you get your act together she’ll be grown and gone….. and you will have missed out on being a parent. Your loss… I’m having a blast!!!! 
  • Oh and by the way……. I pity you….. that little world you live in, in your head must be some miserable place. For you to have held on to this much of a grudge after this much time….. revenge must be eating you alive….. get over me….. I’m good… but I’m not the one for you…… and I have not been for a very long time…… the door is closed… the deadbolts are locked tight… many of them….
  • I’m going to take this all in stride…… as always….. this is just one more hurdle to get over along the road to freedom. I’ll be trying to figure out what my 2nd job will be….. I’m thinking being a bartender might be fun…. but I think I’d need experience. Know of anything that pays decently with flexible hours?

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